There I was, day 2, sitting on the couch, still in my pajamas, immersed in binge watching Netflix, when my husband called. I told him that I got sucked into the vortex of television, to which he responded “that’s good”. I said, “Good?! I should be doing x,y, and z” He said to me with a very seriously, stern, yet loving tone, “sometimes it’s okay to do nothing, you need it, you deserve it”. What my husband didn’t realize is that he reminded me to give myself a little grace. If he could see, notice, and realize that I needed a little “break”, why couldn’t I?
We are so good at getting wrapped up in our to-do’s that we become a well oiled machine. We take on life’s expectations and run, until we are kicking out fumes. When we find ourselves on the couch, in a slump, feeling useless, restless, lacking motivation and inspiration. I do this to myself. I put in 110% and then I crash. Then I feel bad for crashing. It’s one of the reasons why I chose “not to work weekends”. But I’ve managed to add blog posts to those days as well. So even with scheduling, planning, automated sharing, I still find myself here. What happened to my grace? The truth is NO ONE does this to us, we do it to us. So it is up to US, to put a stop to it, by allowing ourselves the grace to just be.
Just being sometimes means binge watching Netflix in your pj’s all day. Sometimes it means a nap until 11:30 in the morning. Sometimes it means just stopping what you’re doing and grabbing a cup of tea. Sometimes it means not cooking dinner and ordering in. Sometimes it means the house stays messy. Sometimes it means, turning off your social media notifications. Sometimes it means, you simply do not post. It means you allow yourself the grace to just be and not feel guilty or remorseful.
A lot of times when we get overwhelmed and crash, we simply don’t know what to do with ourselves. I’m using this page in my Traveler’s Notebook to document what I can do in times that I need to pause, decompress, and allow myself a little grace to be able to continue on with my day, week, month, year, moment, etc.
In case you were wondering, yes, I do plan on leaving that tea bag of stress relief tea clipped in my travelers notebook. Because it is one sure fire way to get me to stop and pause, even if it is just for the time that it takes to prepare and sip the tea. Then I can review the things I’ve listed that I can do to decompress. For me it includes mostly mindless things, self-care things, self-love things, like a hot shower, a short walk, a warm cup of tea, journaling, binge watching Netflix, warm cozy blankets and pampered feet with fresh soft socks. These are the things that help me, because we all deserve to give ourselves a little grace without feeling anything other than relaxed and at peace.
When was the last time you allowed yourself a little grace?
Instead of beating yourself up about not completing something, try reminding yourself of the days you accomplish all the things on your never ending to do list and then say, for today, it’s alright to just sit in this moment. Breathe and just be.
1 Peter 5:10 “And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.”
How do you know when it’s time to decompress?
Do you allow yourself the grace or do you keep pressing forward?
Please leave your responses below, I’d love to hear your thoughts.