When I was a single mom is my twenties, I used to dread the weekends my daughter would be away to visit with her father. The thought of being alone all weekend long, I felt lonely. What was I going to do now that I had no one to tend to? I’d bum it all weekend, eat junk, binge watch yucky love movies, stay in my pajamas and blah out. Then on the day of her return, I’d pull it all together, get cleaned up, clean the house, and cook, she wasn’t the wiser. What I didn’t realize, is that this time alone, was actually essential.
Self Love: Alone Time
Why is alone time essential? I asked my teenage daughter for her insight and quite frankly, she hit the nail on the head. Being a wife, mother, friend, professional, we spend so much time giving, giving, giving. We forget how essential it is to give time to ourselves. We often neglect our own needs and sacrifice to meet the needs of others (common right), but you need it too. Here’s why:
You focus JUST on you, what makes you tick, what do you like, what makes you at peace.
You do what YOU want, create, write, sleep, walk, exercise, do your hair, get dolled up.
That precious quality time you give, is not being given to you. Allowing you the time and opportunity to get to know yourself. Love on yourself, be with just you, your thoughts, and you tender loving care.
Now that my kids are all school aged, I get a 5 hour window every day where I work, relax, journal, create, JUST FOR ME. It’s a blessing. I use it as wisely as I can so that when my kids come home, I can return my attention to them. Some of my favorite activities include:
- Catching up on shows or watching a movie.
- Creating something, whether it be for my blog, journaling, photography, a new recipe.
- Self-care, a manicure, pedicure, putting on make up, doing my hair, trying a new outfit combo.
- Drinking coffee and listening to music.
- Sitting down at the table enjoying a meal.
- Going for a walk.
- Sitting out on the porch and listening to the silence.
- Reading, my bible, Jesus Calling, Becoming Myself, First5.
- Naps, yes, naps, I love naps.
- Long showers.
- Just doing NOTHING, yes, nothing, just me and my thoughts, in prayer, or in silence.
When was the last time you spent time with JUST YOU?
No phones, no distractions, no doing for anyone else but you?
What do you do in your alone time?
I’d love to hear from you, leave a comment below about your alone time practices.